Our adoption journey...

Our two month anniversary has gone and passed. We marked it with cake and hot chocolate (for a change J ) Things continue to go well. Julian by now has met quite a few people and has won over every one of them. He’s quite the charmer and he’s so cute, it is impossible not to like him. He continues to be very stubborn at times which can lead to the dreaded tantrums but I have to say they are less frequent now. I just read a very good blog post about how adoptive parents are plagued by guilt and it’s true. You wait so long for your child that once it is there, you are afraid to complain because you wanted it so much so surely you should just be happy all the time. But things don’t go smoothly all the time. I remember the first week I did ask myself if I was cut out for this. Two months later, I can say Yes I’m cut out for it.   I feel comfortable in my mommy role and more importantly with Julian. In the last two months I have gotten to know him so much better that it has become...

We’ve been home now for two weeks trying to find our rhythm. Julian continues to make excellent progress, he can do a 30 piece puzzle by himself, we memorised our first poem. The most amazing thing is his face when he has done something he couldn’t do before, he is sooooo happy and proud and jumps into my arms. I make sure I give him a lot of encouragement and I do spend a lot of time with him. I am still struggling with the discipline and him trying to kiss and hug his way out of trouble.   But I still believe he needs structure and he needs to learn to adjust his social behaviour which brings me back to the hitting and kicking. It has reduced a lot over the last six weeks but sometimes he does it for no reason, it’s almost as if he’s trying to see if the person he’s trying to upset will still love him after. Any advice from other parents is more than welcome on this issue. We also started with our medical visits, we went to a paediatric department for adopted children and ...